I started to ask myself this question after a short but rather deep conversation with a friend recently. The first time he asked me if I liked myself, I answered “yes” with no hesitation whatsoever. Then a state of ambivalence engulfed me. I don’t know, I am not so sure anymore. Would I hang out with me if I weren’t myself? Maybe, maybe not.
The benefit of being a 20-something-year-old and single is that I have more than enough time to “work on myself”. It sounds so cliche. But in reality, I can’t possibly ask another person to love me when I don’t even love myself. Before anything, I do however, wanna give myself a big pep talk.
- I have an amazing job with amazing supportive colleagues
- I have a decent sizable apartment in the neighborhood I grew up in
- I drive a pretty sweet car
- I have awesome friends. Not a lot, but the ones who stick around are more than amazing. And I love them more than they know. Shhh….
- Jesus!!! He never fails to love me
- I have amazing mentors
- I have a couple of mentees and they are doing more than great. Lovely! #soproud
As many of you guys know, I got sick in the beginning of this year and needed surgery. From there I felt like I wasn’t really taking care of myself that well. I have terrible eating habits and I always stress myself out over nothing. Thus, I’ve decided to make some life style changes as an effort to make myself healthier. It’s really difficult, but I think with the support of friends, prayers and dedication, I could do it.
Here is the list:
- drink more water, less beer/spirits
- eat out less, cook at home more
- follow appropriate dietary guidelines
- 70% healthy/30%cheat
- small frequent meals
- cut down sugary drinks as much as possible
- exercise in moderation
- improve overall budget planning/meet savings goal
- be quick to listen and slow to speak
- be a little more social
- be more organized
- be more assertive
- read more
- decide on a new language to learn and stick to it
- go to fewer concerts, be a little more selective ='(
- travel more! YES!
This is the path to gain my composure as I am waltzing from mid into late 20’s, not a cry for help. But I do appreciate it when a sister or brother offers a hand to keep me accountable. Yes, yes, yes.
If you care enough to read to this far, I would like to open my arms to anyone who might need someone to talk to at any point. We all have moments where we feel down and even depressed. Sometimes, not everyone has the courage to speak up, to say “hey, I need help. I need someone to listen.” Maybe it’s our pride, maybe we are afraid. We don’t have to be best friends. I firmly believe that you and I crossed path for a reason. I mean, I am not a shrink or anything close to that. But I am willing to be there for you, listen to you, do everything in my best ability to help you get through something. It would be my great honor to be a part of your journey to somewhere else. In memory of 2 young lives I know of but passed away this month, I’m asking you, my friend, to say a prayer for them and their families. (Sorry, I can’t dive into details of the deceased. Privacy…)
And lastly, you do you. Don’t blindly try to “fit in”. It’s so overrated. At the end of the day, you only have to answer to you own conscience and God. People suck, not all of them, but many do. Jk. Not really. Now I sound crazy. Haha.